Some men are dogs. Some men have serious problems keeping it in their pants no matter how great you are, how much sex you give them and how devoted you are to them. Hey, shit happens and life isn’t fair. If you arrived here from your google search for signs that your man is cheating on you I’m sorry, but I do not have the answer for you. I’m sure you scrolled through tons of sites claiming to be able to give you the signs that your man is cheating, you may have even taken some quizzes to see if he is, and yet you are still searching.
Consider this, perhaps the fact that you are scouring the Internet looking for answers is in itself a sign. Perhaps it’s not the Internet that you should be searching but rather yourself. Maybe it’s time to take a long, hard look in the mirror and ask yourself why?
Here is what I will say to you- I know what you are going through. I know what it feels like to wonder but never know, for your suspicions to never be confirmed, to question everything he says, to feel like an insecure, crazy, stressed out mess. I’ve had the urge to check his phone, email, even follow him. I’ve felt like I was the crazy one, the insecure jealous one.
Here’s my solution. I believe that in life we only have control over three things- the thoughts we think, the images we visualize, and the things we do (our actions). Controlling what someone else does or how someone else treats us is beyond our capabilities as human beings. We are responsible for the quality of lives we live, it is our choice. I suggest you take a long, hard look in the mirror and think about the quality of life you are living, the quality of your online relationship and ask yourself, “is this what I want for my life/relationship?”. You have to make this decision based on only the three things that you can control, not on the other person and if they are going to change.
If the answer is no, if you are not content with living in that state, with having to wonder, with the uneasy feeling, the stress, the tension-then you have a decision to make. You can learn to accept your life the way it is, you can try and change your thinking, the things you visualize, the things you do, and hope for the best. You could have a serious chat with your man about your feelings and ask him to help out with your feelings of insecurities, I would even suggest that if you are both willing to work through it then you should see someone-a coach, therapist-someone that will help you work through the issue, not just sweep it under the rug, because we all know that sweeping things under the rug only means you’ll have to clean them later. Or you could just walk away. If you are married I would suggest counseling first of course, but if not, you can walk away and save yourself from having to deal with it inside of a marriage.
Never sell yourself short, never stay in a situation where you are unhappy, either work to change it or GET OUT! Don’t let it consume you, don’t waste time you could be enjoying your life(your only life) on being unhappy. Not every man is the same. There are tons of good men out there, men who will make you feel secure, loved, and happy. Never settle.